Very often when we are watching the kids companies, we can notice that among the children always there is someone, who tends to be faster, smarter than the rest of his/her mates and not only mates. At times the desire to be the first one is so strong that in practice it is much more than the available capabilities. This child wants to be praised and told that he/she really is the best.
Frankly speaking, this situation is universal for many cases. - Are you looking for kids ride on cars for sale? - You son or daughter wants the best model. Are there any competitions on a self balancing scooter in the park nearby? - He or she needs to be a winner.
The reaction of parents and friends on this child's desire to be the first in everything can't be the same, of course. Someone doesn't even try to hide hostility, is muttering through the teeth that your son or daughter is an upstart. Other people are smiling looking at such a child with an understanding and approve the desire to be the first. Someone exclaims loudly and enthusiastically that your kid is a future Olympian champion or just a little Einstein. But, of course, also there are men and women, who envy without thinking, or vice versa praise another child at the presence of his/her own.
The child tends to be the first: advantages and disadvantages
The desire of the child to be the first in everything as well as to be noticed in order to please the parents and to be the object of their admiration is quite clear and there is nothing wrong with that. Quieter children will subconsciously try to catch up with these kids, trying to remind them. And here is a way, which forms future leaders, champions, and great figures. There is nothing bad in this sincere desire to be the first.
In this situation, the main problem is not in the child, but in the parents' reaction to such a vivid aim to be the first everywhere.
Let us think together.
On the one hand, if you constantly talk how smart and strong your child is, your words may do much harm to the kid. Why? - The matter is that it is a perfect method to bring up a rather selfish person, who will love only himself/herself more than the surrounding people.
But also you can meet the case, when the child gets used to being the first, despite the fact that sometimes there will be the situation when he/she isn't. As a result, your son or daughter will use any methods to achieve the necessary results, sometimes telling lies and cheating.
On the other hand, if a child is constantly pulled up and held back, without noticing his/her achievements, you will just kill the kid's desire to be better. He/she begins to realize that it is necessary to nobody or even irritates the others. As a result, the small boy or girl will, unfortunately, decide to turn into an ordinary person. Behaving like this, we will suppress the child's desire for self-actualization, and the main part of the talents will just die. This can not be allowed, of course.
And now if you look at these two categorical manners of behavior towards the child with a desire to be the first, you can come to a simple conclusion. We must find such method of promoting of his/her achievements that would become a good stimulus for the future improvement. For example, you can discuss successes, but do it in a way you are talking with an adult. Straighten your baby gently and cheer him/her in the case of necessity. Sometimes it is recommended to do it even in the situation which may seem to be rather simple at the first sight. You see, for young personality, it may be difficult even to choose a hoverboard for sale in Florida. So just be ready to help.
By the way, the specialists usually ask the parents not to appreciate the advantages of other kids at the presence of yours. You can not compare your child and someone else's. You can not even leave a shadow of a doubt that you are hesitating as to his/her abilities. Children need to know that whatever happens they are the best ones to their parents.
At the end we would like to mention that, of course, there is no some kind of algorithm by which you should bring your children up. Every parent is a teacher in his/her own way. Mind that you know your children better than other people.
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